This morning I dared venture onto Facebook just to check if I ought to post something on our music page. Turns out, no – I should not have. On the home page (ok come on now – I had to go via the home page to find my group links) someone had posted something about a little boy (he looked maybe ten or eleven on that pic) being mock-arrested by police, on request of his mother, for making trouble in school.
And the most disturbing thing is that a whole lot of people chipped in, saying that this was a great idea to scare a kid like that and if he was going to be a “little shit” he must just learn.
My heart breaks, do you see the terror on that little face? Kids “make trouble” at school when they need more attention from Mom! More parenting.
Of course you realize that this little boy up there will never fully be able to trust his mother again? Here comes a worse one – in one of the comments, someone mentioned how a mother had her own son arrested for stealing her car and taking it for a joyride with friends. The boy was a teenager (sounded like he wasn’t yet licensed, 17 or something). He spent the weekend in prison and came out, to quote her, “so full of HIV he was practically glowing”. Three months later he was dead. She didn’t specify if he died of AIDS or suicided.
Mothers, what the hell are you doing? Since when are children “little shits” just for doing what children have always done – getting up to mischief and testing the limits? Since when do you condemn your son into the tender care of serious criminals for a weekend as punishment for a joyride in your car (scary, sure, but – really)? And since when, fathers, do you cut off your daughter’s gorgeous hair, videotape this and plaster it all over Youtube to shame her, for staying out after curfew? Have you parents lost your minds?
I don’t understand how this world works, anymore. Sure, our children (the Millennials) are called the “me-generation”, but often I have to wonder. Really wonder.
A child does not become selfish, greedy and arrogant by itself. It becomes so as a result of poor upbringing. There are so many places that tell our kids that they “deserve” this and “deserve” that, and more than half of it is commercialism (advertising to the parents through the child, a.k.a. the “nag factor” as it’s actually known in marketing). It is up to the parents to debrief their child and explain that having this or that gadget isn’t everything, and that not having it doesn’t make their child a loser nor them bad parents.
So if your child is a spoilt brat – wait, why does this sound so familiar?
“Oompa loompa doompety doo
I’ve got another puzzle for you
Oompa loompa doompety dee
If you are wise you’ll listen to me
Who do you blame when your kid is a brat
Pampered and spoiled like a Siamese cat
Blaming the kids is a lie and a shame
You know exactly who’s to blame
The mother and the father…”
How many parents would even consider relocating to another town (which means switching to a usually less lucrative job) to help their kid overcome a bad circle of friends, a bad school with bullying, or whatever? How many would consider homeschooling to improve the direct parental influence that shapes a child? Not too many, I guess. At least, the ones who do are never the ones who end up in the headlines for rubbish like this!
So, dear Generation-Xers, before you point fingers at the Millennials and call them a “Me-Generation”, take a long hard look in the mirror.
Yes, I’m a Generation-Xer too. And yes I’m judgemental and holier-than-thou about this! Sans apology. Stick that in your pipe and smoke it!